By Bree Winkler, EdS, LPC, CAMS
www.PrivateCounselingGA.com
Have you ever caught yourself saying hurtful things… to yourself? Sometimes we reprimand ourselves for a small error. For example, after being pulled over for speeding in the car, I might say, sarcastically “Good job, Bree. Now you have to pay a fine.” However, sometimes the things we say to ourselves are more deeply rooted. For example, with the same scenario above, I could also say to myself “I am so stupid. I never do anything right.” A false belief is a fear of the emotional pain that results from believing something negative about our self.
The lack of core/basic needs are the root causes of the false belief statements. When you doubt your ability to have or receive core needs or desires (love, belonging, success, or self-worth), you begin to use negative statements to talk to yourself. Ultimately, these statements become truth to you. Here are some examples of False Belief statements based on Core Needs:
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Have you ever caught yourself saying hurtful things… to yourself? Sometimes we reprimand ourselves for a small error. For example, after being pulled over for speeding in the car, I might say, sarcastically “Good job, Bree. Now you have to pay a fine.” However, sometimes the things we say to ourselves are more deeply rooted. For example, with the same scenario above, I could also say to myself “I am so stupid. I never do anything right.” A false belief is a fear of the emotional pain that results from believing something negative about our self.
The lack of core/basic needs are the root causes of the false belief statements. When you doubt your ability to have or receive core needs or desires (love, belonging, success, or self-worth), you begin to use negative statements to talk to yourself. Ultimately, these statements become truth to you. Here are some examples of False Belief statements based on Core Needs:
Love I’m not lovable I am plain and dull I am not special I don’t matter I am unworthy I am not liked I am not appreciated I am unneeded | Belonging I am judged by everyone I’m different I am unwanted I am alone I am unwelcome I don’t fit in anywhere I don’t belong | Success I’m not good enough I am unsuccessful I’m not valuable I am inferior I am nothing I am worthless I am invisible I am insignificant I’m stupid | Self-Worth I don’t deserve good things I’m worthless I’m bad I am unattractive I am flawed I am stupid I am awkward I am slow I can’t be me |
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