Have you ever noticed the look on your face when you are angry, upset, confused, or troubled by something? Is this the look you want others to see? I am constantly telling clients to “fix your face.”
What is “fix your face?”
It is a funny way to remind people how they show their emotions affects how other people respond to them. For example, if you walk around with a scowl on your face, other people tend to avoid you.
It also helps remind individuals that adjusting their body language and facial expressions can alter their mood. For example, gritting your teeth and squinting your eyes shows anger. If you fix your face by consciously relaxing face muscles and portraying a calm expression, you start to feel calm. In addition, it gives you time to decide how you want to proceed in the current situation because you can easily use effective problem solving skills when you are calm and collected.
Body Language and Facial Expressions are Behaviors
Behaviors are a result of a specific thought causing you to feel a certain way. Using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, start with changing your problematic thoughts. Use this simple formula:
THOUGHTS -----> FEELINGS -----> BEHAVIORS
Cause Cause
What is “fix your face?”
It is a funny way to remind people how they show their emotions affects how other people respond to them. For example, if you walk around with a scowl on your face, other people tend to avoid you.
It also helps remind individuals that adjusting their body language and facial expressions can alter their mood. For example, gritting your teeth and squinting your eyes shows anger. If you fix your face by consciously relaxing face muscles and portraying a calm expression, you start to feel calm. In addition, it gives you time to decide how you want to proceed in the current situation because you can easily use effective problem solving skills when you are calm and collected.
Body Language and Facial Expressions are Behaviors
Behaviors are a result of a specific thought causing you to feel a certain way. Using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, start with changing your problematic thoughts. Use this simple formula:
THOUGHTS -----> FEELINGS -----> BEHAVIORS
Cause Cause
| How It Works: If you Think: That was not fair! You Feel: sad, confused, and/or angry Your facial Behavior is: frowning and red faced Your physical Behavior is: yelling, walking away, and/or not listening | If you change your Thought to: I’m going to figure out how to fix this! You Feel: hopeful and determined Your facial Behavior is: contemplative and relaxed Your physical Behavior is: planning/brainstorming and/or talking calmly |
Once you Change your Thoughts, your emotions/feelings and behaviors will also change. Fix Your Face by starting at the beginning – with your Thoughts!
Do you need help changing your thoughts to improve your feelings and behaviors? Contact Bree today!
Do you need help changing your thoughts to improve your feelings and behaviors? Contact Bree today!
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